Dating A Cougar? Here’s What You Need To Know

Ah, the art of dating a cougar. And I use the word art specifically, because, in a sense, it truly is an art and it truly does take an artist to pull it off. And if it is pulled off correctly, my goodness does it create something beautiful. So beautiful, that one may call it - art.

Anyways, congratulations. If you’re reading this article, chances are that you are, or may be in the near future, looking for a milf or dating a cougar. So, congratulations from jealous guys everywhere.

Now you just need to do your best on not screwing things up. Luckily for you, there is very little to screw up with a cougar because it isn’t your typical style of dating. Read on to discover six things you should know when dating a cougar.

1. No Pressure

   No pressure, dude. As society and television continuously portray, most men are intimidated and startled by the mentions of commitment, marriage and especially having children. But when dating a cougar, these aren’t topics of any relevance and are usually never discussed.
   
   Being the older, more experienced one, she’ll understand the little importance of titles and feeling committed, or obligated, to one another. The free flow of things while dating cougars is what allows young men to thoroughly enjoy it and in return, make the cougar enjoy it more as well. There isn’t the standard relationship pressure of having to text her as soon as you wake up or check-in with her before committing plans with other friends—you simply keep doing you, and then find time to do your cougar “girlfriend” on the side.
   
   Being an older woman, she’ll most likely have a very busy schedule as well, dealing with work, her children or even water-aerobics at the local gym. No matter the case, never feel the pressure to check-in every day or introduce her to your parents—they could’ve gone to grade school together.

2. There’s Little Drama

   Yes, I mean it. There is little, close to zero, drama when dating a cougar. Well, at least compared to when in a normal relationship with someone of similar age to oneself.
   
   She’s not going to give you the silent treatment for waving to Becky across the bar or complimenting another girl’s jewelry—she’ll understand how harmless such acts truly are and know that what really matters is who you find yourself laying next to at the end of the night…and hopefully also beginning of the morning.
   
   This also means that she won’t be caring for your drama either. Just because you’re her new boy-toy doesn’t mean you shouldn’t be acting like a man. Don’t sit around and complain about your job or friends or family, remain as positive about life as possible and you’ll create positive feelings in her as well.

3. Don’t Mention Age

   She knows she is much older than you, trust me. That is exactly why she chose to date you in the first place. The age difference is exactly what she was looking for and she doesn’t need your help by pointing it out.
   
   Older women date younger men to help them feel young again—they are looking for the excitement and exuberance that comes with young dating and they are hoping to find that with you. Any mentioning of her age or reminders of how much younger you are will only make her feel unsexy and elderly when around you.
   
   She is constantly being reminded of her age every time she is with you, so help her feel young and sexy by giving her compliments and not being able to keep your hands off her. She’ll secretly appreciate it more than you know and you’ll surely see a return of favor where you’ll most enjoy it.

4. Don’t Play Games

   “I’m not gonna answer her call so she thinks I’m with another girl.” If you have ever said something along those lines, then grow the hell up and get out of here, amateur hour was over 30 minutes ago. Any cougar who is worth dating will not stand for your childish “games,” like playing hard to get or being standoffish in public or around friends.
   
   Cougars have been there, done that and don’t care to do it again. So man up and treat the relationship straight on for what it really is, or isn’t. She won’t be calling you at 2 a.m. crying for your attention or holding onto some other guy’s arm in the bar to make you jealous—she simply won’t deal with you anymore and she’ll move on to the next young stud looking for his shot with a cougar.

5. Don’t Hold Back

   Due to her extra life experience and overall extra time to experience “some shit,” most cougars have been around the block a few times and have seen what there is to be seen. Now this refers to both outside and inside the bedroom, but I think everyone is a little more interested about inside the bedroom than out, if I’m not mistaken.
   
   That being said, don’t hold back! She has been through the standard awkwardness and shyness that usually comes with new sexual interactions plenty of times, so don’t let that stint your performance or openness to new things. That cool thing that you can do with your tongue might be old news to her and not that cool, so don’t rely on your standard skill-set to work here—this isn’t a standard woman you’re dealing with.
   
   It’s okay to read a book or use the internet to help with some new and exciting ideas for the bedroom—I mean, here you are reading this—so find some new experiences that’ll leave her wishing she met you 20 years earlier.

6. She’s More Experienced

   She’s more experienced, it is as simple as that. With just about everything, she has one leg up on you. And you’re going to have to accept that. Now, you may know more about sports than her or something specific, but when it comes to life-knowledge and the things that really matter, she’ll be there for you.
   
   She most likely knows love and knows heartbreak all too well, she’s run with the wind and now the wind only runs through her hair, life can be tough and she knows that. It is important that you respect her wisdom and her opinion, she has been down an entire road that you are only just now paying the toll for.